How much time do you spend trying to be the kind of woman you think men want? If you’re like most women, it’s a LOT. You spend all this time making yourself look sexy and attractive. All this time presenting yourself as fun, interesting, worldly, and not needy in the slightest. You spend all this time showing him just how good you’d be for him… How amazing his future would be if he chose you as the woman by his side… And it doesn’t work. It never works. WHY? Why do you work so hard… And the guy in your life just takes you for granted, if he even notices you at all? It’s probably because he’s immature, right? He can’t recognize a good thing until it’s gone. Or maybe… It’s because you’ve been doing all the work for him.

The Importance of Effort: If He Doesn’t Invest in Your Relationship, He Won’t Appreciate It

The Value of Effort: Understanding What Men Truly Cherish

Fact:

Men tend to appreciate things more when they have worked hard to obtain them. A simple handout may not hold the same significance as something they have put time, effort, and dedication into achieving, such as earning a college diploma after years of study.

Similarly, if a man is handed the “perfect” girlfriend without having to invest any effort in pursuing her, he may not value her as much as he would if he had gone through the process of wooing her and winning her over. This is why the concept of playing hard to get can be effective.

However, there is a challenge that arises when playing hard to get. Once a man feels that he has “won” you, some may shift their focus to the next conquest, as if the game is over. This can create problems in a relationship, and it begs the question: What is happening, and how can you prevent it from negatively impacting your relationship?

A Shared Experience: Why Women Seek Help in Dealing with This

Many women struggle with love and tend to maintain emotional distance from men, fearing that getting too close might scare them away. However, there are others who take a different approach and seek assistance. James Bauer, a relationship coach, is one of the individuals they seek guidance from. Bauer noticed a recurring issue among his clients – they would complain about men who displayed inconsistent behavior, alternating between being warm and distant. The sudden change puzzled them. Men who were once affectionate and interested would suddenly become aloof, showing no time or interest. Bauer, determined to help his clients, delved into the matter and made a significant discovery that shed light on the situation. He realized that these men were withdrawing because of a crucial aspect he referred to as “The Hero Instinct.” It became evident that the issue did not lie with the women themselves, but rather with fulfilling this innate need in men.

Unbeknownst to Them, Many Women Unintentionally Push Men Away

Unbeknownst to many women, their natural caring nature may inadvertently diminish a man’s sense of purpose. While women strive to be there for their partners and provide constant support, they may unknowingly deprive men of the opportunity to fulfill their innate desire to be a hero. Men have an inherent fascination with heroes, as evidenced by their enduring interest in superhero stories. From childhood, they dream of becoming a hero who saves the world and wins the girl. However, their everyday jobs rarely allow them to unleash their heroic qualities. Nevertheless, they still yearn to prove themselves and win the heart of a woman. For an ordinary man with a superhero’s heart, winning a woman’s love becomes a worthy challenge. It demands extraordinary confidence, charm, and resilience. The missing piece of the puzzle is finding a woman who needs a hero. But perhaps that’s not you. You are strong, independent, and self-reliant. You possess a range of skills and can take care of yourself without relying on a man. You are not seeking someone to complete you, like in the movie Jerry Maguire. Instead, you have so much to offer a man—generosity, kindness, love, and selflessness. Your only desire is to find a man who is open to receiving all that you have to give. However, this may be the reason why heroes have not emerged in your life. Instead, you may have encountered individuals who take advantage of your giving nature and leave you feeling empty. If you truly desire a hero, it’s time to communicate that need. Here’s how you can advertise for a hero and attract the right person into your life.

How to Welcome a Hero into Your Life: 3 Actionable Steps to Begin Today

1. Seek a guy’s assistance. Engage him in seeking advice on tech purchases, requesting his help in identifying car issues, or asking him to reach high shelves. Show genuine gratitude and appreciation for his support. Remember, it doesn’t make you dependent; it simply means you have space in your life for a man’s contribution.
2. Enjoy the company of men. Value men for who they are and appreciate their unique qualities. Embrace their enthusiasm for sports, their dedication to fantasy football, or their laid-back approach to fashion. You don’t need them to be more like you because you already bring femininity to the equation.
3. Allow him to earn your respect. Superheroes thrive on challenges and earning their accolades. They don’t desire love handed to them effortlessly. They seek opportunities to prove themselves. Offer situations where he can showcase his abilities. You don’t have to put in all the effort to win him over. Relax, observe, and let him delight in earning your admiration.

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If that sounds like fun to you, click here to watch a video presentation about this relationship enhancement tool. It’s something you can learn once, but then use for the rest of your life.