Mastering the Art of Swift Seduction: Unveiling the Secrets to Passionate Make-Out Sessions in Under 40 Seconds
If you’ve ever witnessed a man confidently approaching and engaging in a spontaneous makeout session with a stranger at a bar, it may appear almost magical or unattainable. However, the truth is that this skill can be broken down into simple steps that anyone can follow. In this article, I will outline these steps for you.
One crucial aspect that sets apart those who excel in attracting women from those who struggle is the ability to identify a woman who is ready for a makeout session. Surprisingly, around 90% of the difference lies in this skill.
Contrary to popular belief, many women desire such encounters. However, due to fear or hesitation, these experiences rarely happen. As a result, women often leave the bar alone or become frustrated with the lack of approaches from potential partners.
To master this technique, it is essential to learn how to identify women who are open to a make out session within 40 seconds or less. Certain signs can help you identify these women, particularly in a bar setting.
One key indicator is when a woman frequently looks down. This behavior signifies that she is accessing her emotions and having an emotional response to your presence. If she also tilts her head down, she is physically displaying submission.
These signs allow you to approach her and take the lead. However, if she maintains direct eye contact without looking away, the situation becomes more challenging. In this case, she is meeting you head-on and not immediately displaying submission.
To quickly engage in a makeout session within 40 seconds, you need to find a woman who willingly assumes a submissive role. Additionally, observe if she actively scans the room, seeking eye contact with others. If she interacts with multiple people and appears open, it presents an excellent opportunity for an immediate and passionate encounter.
Other factors to consider include her body language and attire. A woman adopting a dominant posture with her feet apart is less likely to be receptive to your advances. Look for someone who takes up less space, stands with her legs closer together, and appears approachable.
Furthermore, pay attention to her clothing. A woman dressed in a way that draws excessive attention is unlikely to be open to a quick makeout session. You want to find someone who exudes confidence without being overly flamboyant.
This middle ground is often occupied by women on vacation. They typically have a more open-minded approach, seeking connections and excitement, making them highly receptive to your advances.
Once you have identified a suitable candidate, it’s time to initiate the interaction. This is where mastering frame control becomes crucial. By controlling her perception and reality, you can appear experienced in these situations.
Approach the woman, make eye contact, and bring your finger to your lips while whispering, “Shhh…” Slow down your speaking speed and deepen your voice as you say, “Wait just one moment” or “Stop for one minute.” These words, utilizing neurolinguistic programming (NLP), subtly encourage her to engage in a makeout session.
Continue to control the frame by stating, “You and I are going to have a secret. We’re going to secretly kiss, and no one will know.” Lean in closer, maintaining eye contact while glancing at her lips. This technique builds anticipation.
Remember, you are still in control of the interaction. Lightly touch her back without pulling her towards you and observe her response. Is she looking at your lips? If so, proceed accordingly.
What To Look For
The first sign to look out for is when a woman frequently looks downward. This behavior indicates that she is accessing her emotions. Our eye movements correspond to different parts of the brain, known as “Eye Accessing Cues.” In a bar setting, if a woman makes eye contact with you, then looks down and back up again, it signifies that she is emotionally responsive to your gaze. If she also tilts her head down, not just using her eyes, but physically lowering herself, it demonstrates submission.
This presents an opportunity for you to assert dominance by approaching her confidently.
On the other hand, if a woman maintains eye contact with you, smiles, and doesn’t look away, it may be a more challenging situation. Socially, she is directly engaging with you and not showing immediate submission.
To make out with a woman within 40 seconds or less, she should naturally assume a submissive role. This quality indicates that you can quickly establish a connection with her.
Another important aspect is her active engagement in seeking eye contact. This is crucial. If a woman is focused on a specific person and avoids looking away, it will be more difficult to seduce her within the given timeframe. It will require a different approach.
Instead, watch for a woman who is engaged in conversation but consistently scanning the room and making eye contact with various individuals. This presents a highly favorable opportunity for you to engage with her sexually right away.
Other traits can be observed through her movement and attire. For instance, if she stands with her feet shoulder-width apart, it suggests that she may be less available for you to approach and dominate. This dominant posture with stronger body language indicates potential resistance.
Instead, look for a woman who takes up less space, with her legs closer together, and appears slightly detached from a group while surveying her surroundings.
The way she dresses is also significant. If she wears flashy and attention-grabbing attire, she is likely seeking attention rather than someone to dominate her. You should aim for someone who falls between extremes, not overly dressed-up or too casually attired.
Many women on vacation often fall into this category. They tend to adopt a middle ground, uncertain of the bar atmosphere, and are open-minded, actively seeking connections. This presents an excellent opportunity for both you and her.
Now that you know what signs to look for and how to identify her, take a moment to observe her. If you believe she is someone you can approach in this manner, proceed accordingly.
If not, I would still suggest giving it a try, just to see what happens.
Once you’ve identified your target (as there are typically a few of these women in a bar at any given time), it’s time to approach and embark on the slightly nerve-wracking part.
What To Do
This article delves into the concept of frame control, which is crucial for projecting confidence and appearing skilled in romantic encounters. To control someone else’s frame means to shape their perception of reality and maintain control over their experience. Mastering this skill is essential for creating an environment where a woman feels comfortable engaging in an immediate make-out session.
Here’s a concise and direct method for achieving this. Follow these steps when approaching a girl:
- Walk up to her and establish eye contact.
- Slowly raise your finger to your lips and say, “Shhh…”
- Speak at a slower pace, with a deeper voice, and say, “Wait just one moment” or “Stop for one minute.” Utilize some elements of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) here. Words like “stop,” “wait,” or “don’t” grab immediate attention and register in the listener’s mind. For example, if I tell you, “Don’t think of a black cat,” what happens? You instantly think of a black cat, envisioning the version you have in your mind. By saying, “Don’t try to make out with me” or “Don’t make out with me right now,” consciously she hears “Don’t make out with me,” but subconsciously, her mind hears “Make out with me right now!”
The goal is to subtly implant the idea of making out with you in her mind, making it feel like her own thought. It’s like using real-life Inception to shape her desires.
During this process of frame control, you’ll employ various subconscious triggers to expedite the progression. However, please use this technique responsibly and ethically. It is crucial to only pursue women who genuinely desire to engage in seductive encounters with a man.
To summarize the steps thus far: Approach her, place your finger on your lips, and ask her to “Shhh” momentarily. Follow it with a sentence starting with “don’t,” “wait,” or “stop.” For example, “Don’t worry… right now.” Speak slowly and emphasize the pauses.
Next, lean in slowly while maintaining eye contact. Triangulate your gaze, counting to three while looking at her eyes, then down to her lips, and back to her eyes, repeating this pattern three or four times during the conversation. This technique is called “Triangulating.”
Remember, it might take some practice to execute these steps perfectly, so don’t be discouraged if you don’t get it right the first time.
Continuing the interaction, say, “You and I are going to have a secret. We’re going to secretly kiss, and no one will know.” Maintain control by filling the conversation with words while leaning in slowly. Simultaneously, look into her eyes, then down to her lips, and repeat the gaze pattern several times.
Please keep in mind that these suggestions can be overwhelming to remember, so take some time to practice them. It’s unrealistic to expect perfection on your initial attempts.
Finally, as you lean in, gently and slowly place your right or left hand (whichever is more accessible) around her back, ensuring a light touch without pulling her towards you just yet.
Signs That It’s Working
Is she directing her gaze towards your lips? If so, it’s a positive indication for you to proceed. However, if her focus is on your eyes, it might be wise to wait a moment or utilize a subtle technique to reset the interaction.
Turning around and then turning back can create a psychological effect of starting afresh in the conversation. It’s an interesting quirk of human psychology. When someone turns away and then faces you again, we tend to give them another chance to engage. So, if you encounter some resistance, try this technique. Turn away briefly, then turn back, offer a smile, and continue the conversation. If she still displays resistance, it’s advisable to respect her boundaries and shift your attention to another woman.
On the other hand, if she is focused on your lips and appears comfortable and enthusiastic, it’s a green light to proceed further. Lean in closely and speak almost directly into her ear, creating an intimate and engaging atmosphere.
!Important!
In a noisy environment like a bar, it’s important to project your voice without raising it. Instead, maintain a low and deep tone that requires you to be in close proximity to her ear for effective communication.
Continue the conversation while being close to her ear. A phrase I often use is, “This will be our little secret. I promise not to tell anyone, as long as you promise the same.” While speaking into her ear, ensure that she can feel your breath on her neck. Exhale slightly more than usual, creating a sensation of warmth on her skin. This intimate act often elicits a strong and primal response from women.
While maintaining close proximity to her ear, gently press your cheek against hers as you speak. Gradually, reposition your head so that your mouth is closer to hers, and then initiate the kiss.
When executed correctly, you can start with a soft peck and smoothly transition into passionate kissing. It may not seem apparent from the description, but 40 seconds is a substantial amount of time. In reality, this entire process can unfold in much less time—I’ve experienced it personally, and I’ve witnessed other men achieve the same result.
Practice It
I encourage you to practice and refine this approach. Start with a duration of about a minute or two, and gradually aim to execute it within 40 or even 30 seconds.
While you won’t employ this tactic in every situation, it’s valuable to have it as a powerful tool in your seduction repertoire. It’s crucial to equip yourself with the right techniques for the task at hand.
When you come across a woman who exhibits the signs of readiness to be seduced, it’s essential to act decisively and avoid wasting time with small talk or beating around the bush. Failing to seize the opportunity promptly can result in a missed chance for seduction.
The key is to identify these opportunities, approach the woman confidently, and fulfill her desires without delay. This distinction separates those who excel at quickly seducing women from those who wish they possessed the same skill.
Additionally, there are other factors that contribute to success. Mastering the appropriate tonality in your speech, establishing comfortable physical contact without triggering any discomfort, and utilizing specific NLP triggers to establish a connection all play a role in ensuring the woman is fully engaged and receptive.
What has elevated me from an ordinary individual to a respected dating coach is my understanding of shortcuts like this and knowing precisely when to employ them. These shortcuts can undoubtedly enhance your interactions with women as well.
Keep these characteristics of women who are open to seduction in mind, and remember that it is indeed possible to engage in a passionate make-out session with a woman in 40 seconds or less.
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Joshua Pellicer